Goals and Dreams

What is a goal, and what is a dream? And what is the difference between the two?

To me, a goal is a target or a task that you can reach by yourself. You might benefit from outside assistance, and that’s all fine and good, but you can reach the target, or complete the task, by your own efforts alone. That’s a goal. Goals should be achievable in the first place, so why not make that the definition, right?

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A dream, on the other hand, is something that you really can’t accomplish all on your own, but it might be possible to reach a dream if you have outside assistance. A dream might include winning the lottery. You certainly can’t PLAN on winning the lottery, after all! It requires luck more than anything!

I’m not against having dreams. I have dreams; many of my dreams involve someone who knows what they’re doing (in other words, NOT ME) inventing a way to clone kidneys from fat tissue, so I could get a pair of good kidneys from my belly fat! Wouldn’t that be awesome?! That’s a GREAT dream, and it would help so many people!

One of my goals, on the other hand, is to make my bed every morning, if I am at all able to do that much on that particular day. Some days, I just can’t. Some days, I could, but it would take hours. Some days, I can twitch those covers straight, fluff those pillows, and only then need to sit down so I don’t pass out.

Another dream of mine is to get on home oxygen, but I have to maneuver through all sorts of insurance hoops to get it, and then depend on other people at the insurance level to decide how sick I really am and flip a coin to see if I should be allowed to breathe. But I’m taking steps to start the process!

Basically speaking, a goal should be able to be reached by yourself. It usually helps, too, to break down a goal into smaller steps, or sub-goals. Sub-goals are like chapters in the book of your over-all goals. They can be broken down even more, into micro-goals, each one a step toward your greater sub-goals, which are themselves steps toward your larger, life-goals.

Sub-goals and micro-goals are great ways to start. Do you want to build a habit? Make a micro-goal to perform whatever it is you want to become a habit, and set yourself that micro-goal every day for a month. By the end of the month, that micro-goal should have become a habit, and you can move on to the next step toward improving your life!

Crawling Out From Under My Fears

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Looking Forward

It’s been a while. It’s been about two months, actually. We all know what’s been happening in the world in the past two months, so there’s no need to go over all that here. Suffice it to say, I’ve been struggling since the election to find a way out from under some pretty crushing fears for my future. It’s taken me this long to give up my fears and put myself in God’s hands again. I have to keep doing that, over and over and over again, as new things happen in the world. I have to re-learn, again and again, that my troubles don’t really amount to much, in the grand scheme of things. If I were gone, my family would still continue. It’s taken me a lot of praying, and a lot of scriptures, to remind myself that I have no need to fear; all will be well, no matter how it goes. This mortal life is but a blink of an eye, here and gone again, and my immortal soul has more important things to worry about, like how I treat my fellow man. So, I’m crawling out from under my fears, and putting them behind me. No matter what happens, I have put my trust in God, who I know wants me to be happy, and who has a long-range perspective that I can’t begin to comprehend.

It’s a new year, though, full of hope and possibility! Who knows what could happen! For instance, I found my thermal underwear this morning, which is lovely because it’s been below freezing here lately, and we don’t really know how to cope with that here in Texas. Here, when it drops below 70 degrees, folks turn on their heaters!

And I have plans for this year, things I want to do. Most of them center on making my room a lovely, organized place, which it has never been before. I took one first step in doing that today, when I put away all my clean laundry that had been sitting for months. That, in itself, has made a change in the atmosphere of my room! There are countless more little things I can do around my room to make it look nicer, that if I simply take a moment and DO them, they’ll stop lurking at me in the background and I’ll feel like I accomplished something. The biggest hurdle I have is simply allowing myself to only do one or two small tasks in a day, rather than requiring a huge, all-or-nothing push that would wear me out. It’s difficult, stopping after a mere few tasks, especially when I still have enough energy to do a little more. The danger for me doing a little more is that I’ll overdo it without realizing it, and pay for it for days afterward.

As for my writing, this year I’ll be revising my completed story (working title “The Healing Touch”) and will be on the lookout for feedback from beta readers. I’ve sent it out to a few alpha readers already, but only one sent back any feedback. Still, in my cold read of what I had written, I spotted a lot of things I need to change. I definitely need a different title, though.

So, there’s the news from me. There really isn’t anything else to share today.

Do you have anything to share with me? What’s been going on in your life lately? What kind of goals have you set for yourself for 2017? What are you afraid of, and how do you deal with that?


ROW80 Update

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This past week has just flown by! Thursday, we had a party for my sister and my sister-in-law, who had birthdays earlier in the week. Thursday happens to be the one day that all of us are available. It’s my brother’s “Saturday”, it’s not a dialysis day for me or my sister, and my brother’s kids are schooling at home, so there’s leeway there. Although, the kids ARE on a schedule for their classes, or I wouldn’t need to get up before dawn to go walking with my sister-in-law before her kids’ classes start. I don’t know if we’ll get to it this coming week – we had to change the days last week, and she forgot, so on the day, there I was, dark and early, sitting waiting, and she had forgotten. The next scheduled day, there I was, dark and early, sitting and waiting (she’s supposed to come get me), and when I checked in with her, it was raining, so no go. Walking in the rain at dawn is kind of unpleasant, after all. And I still can’t go very far, even if I have gotten used to the weight of my oxygen canister over my shoulder. And my cane. I can make it to the bleachers and in front of the whole set of bleachers, then I have to turn around and go back. Plus there’s sitting on the bleachers a couple of times to rest. But hey, WHEN we get out there, it’s still movement, more than I would normally get. I consider being ready (as I was) to be a goal met, though.

On my other goals, though, there’s some small movement. I have a paragraph in my Evil Overlord’s POV in a note he wrote to his daughter, outlining what she needed to look for in a consort who could finally take over for him. It’s not much movement, but it’s a little bit, and gives me a tiny bit of insight into my Evil Overlord’s personality. That’s important. It’s still conflict even if it’s one-sided, right? He’s all for it, and very supportive of these upstarts he’s so carefully infected with unrest, after all. It’s not HIS fault that they’re seeing a fight where there really isn’t one, right? And his daughter’s playing both sides together, trying to see which of the upstarts she fancies most as a co-ruler with her. And the upstarts don’t know any of this.

I need some upstarts.

I finished off my 50th book yesterday, in my Goodreads.com reading challenge, so I finished it with almost two and a half months to spare! WOOT! And that was with taking almost a month to read a couple of those books. Each. Now I just have books to read and review, but there’s no rush on any of them. And I won’t be doing much reading in November, anyway, shooting for word count as I will be. My daily word count, for my own reasons (avoiding burn-out), is 500 words a day in November. However, since I want to write it on 750words.com this year, for my own reasons (cool badges!), I’ll try each day to get 750 words. Some of ’em, though, won’t be for the book, so that’s the difference.

Okay, then, that’s my update. How was your week?

A ROW80 Update, and a Word on Journals

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This ROW80, I’ve been gone for quite a while, so I’m diving back in, but I’m diving in slow motion. I’ve only got some vague goals for this month: blog frequently, write frequently, outline a novel for NaNoWriMo in November. Next month, of course, my goals will change to focus on NaNo, but for October, I’m trying to get back into the “thinking about goals” mindset again, now that I can see.

I have my homekeeping tasks on Habitica, and my health tasks, like walking with my sister-in-law on dialysis days, first thing in the mornings. Currently, we’ve been rained out once, but we still got two of the three days, so huzzah! My “off” days are usually full of doctor’s appointments and the like, and I have to start slow and build up my walking, same as I have to start slow and build up my goal-reaching.

I’ve been building the habit of writing at least one thing that I’m thankful for by the end of every day. Some days, I admit, I’ve skipped for tiredness, but most days-about 9 out of 10-I write several things that I’m thankful for. And the rule is it has to be something I’m truly thankful for, not just something I “like”. It has to have a profound meaning for me at the time, even if it’s something as simple as that one chocolate chip cookie I had, or whatever. I mean, just think about it; we actually have chocolate chip cookies in this world! How wonderful is that!? And I had one! Ooooh, aaaah! What a wonderful experience, to feel the chocolate chips melt in the mouth, to taste that sultry, dark sweetness, mingling with that delectable chewy cookie goodness. Wouldn’t you be thankful for that right now? If so, write it down. A gratitude journal like this one I’ve been building has helped my outlook improve dramatically! So has seeing again, but I mention that just about every day in my gratitude journal. Did you know, just the other day I realized that I could see the individual blades of grass in the yard?! Or yesterday, while I was out, I saw the fur coat of a rocking horse, not as “brown stuff” but as individual hairs with swirls and flow! It was illuminating! Every day, I SEE things I haven’t seen in so long that it’s like remembering a dream; nothing but rough impressions, punctuated by crystal clear images. Imagine still being so very thankful that you can SEE! I can look back through my gratitude journal and recapture my joy at seeing a bird in the trees, or seeing the leaves on the trees for that matter. Seeing ladybugs on the plants! Imagine that!

Anyway, the link below leads to an excellent article on the value and worth of keeping a journal. I suggest you go read it and see if it moves you to keep one yourself. Click on through, and then maybe come back and let me know what you think?

“The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the…

Source: Why Keeping a Daily Journal Could Change Your Life – The Mission – Medium

The Most Overlooked Secret: How To Instantly Become Happy – The Coffeelicious – Medium

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Flowers in our yard!

How often have you told yourself, “Someday, I’ll be happy! I’ll have that dream job, and I’ll live in that dream house, and I’ll be happy at last!” How often have you told others that if they work hard and reach their goals, they’ll be happy? How often have you lied to yourself and to others like this?

Happiness is not a destination you can reach by achieving goals in life, or by realizing dreams. Happiness is a state of mind. You can be happy right now, no waiting! And the huge secret to how to be happy is as small and insignificant as that first taste of coffee in the morning, or that funny joke you heard from a friend, or that book you just read that made you smile. If you want to be happy now, simply BE happy. It’s a journey, a state of mind, a way of looking at the world.

Max Lukominskyi says it better than I can. Go check out his post on Medium:



Source: The Most Overlooked Secret: How To Instantly Become Happy – The Coffeelicious – Medium

My Morning Routine

My morning routine is usually very languid. I sleep until I wake up and decide I don’t need to sleep anymore. Unless we have something scheduled, that’s usually around 9-ish. Then I say a “good morning, God” prayer, get out of bed, and shuffle to the bathroom for my morning relief. Usually, while I’m in there, I’ll brush my teeth and wash the sleep sweat from myself, and wet and fluff my hair. Then it’s back to my bedroom to weigh in for the day and get dressed. This usually takes from fifteen to twenty minutes, give or take. By half past getting up time, I’m usually ready for my half-an-hour-before-food pills.

Then, for that half hour I have to wait for my pills to kick in before I can eat, I get my breakfast ready (usually coffee mixed 50/50 with milk, with a side of fruit juice; my stomach rebels at solids first thing in the morning). I bring that back into my room and read my scriptures while taking my morning dose of nebulizer Albuterol. The Albuterol and my scripture chapters usually run out about at the same time, which is time for me to check my blood sugars and then have my breakfast.

After breakfast, I have to straighten my bed (which shifts away from the wall every single night), sift the litter box, sweep the floor, and wash my breakfast glasses, then set up the rest of my daily fluid allowance: two 14 ounce flasks that have to take me through to the next morning. It’s about enough fluid to take all my pills, with a little extra left over for a treat!

Then, my housekeeping done for my room, I can settle in to write, read my emails, and be sociable online. Or, on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, I can put on my numbing cream and think about what to bring for lunch to dialysis.

Tomorrow morning, however, my routine is going to be tossed aside for the opportunity to go for a walk with my sister-in-law in the very pretty park we have. It’ll still be dark and cold, though, but I’m looking forward to it anyway. 🙂 I’ll be bringing my portable oxygen tank, of course, and my cane to help me keep my balance, but I’m still looking forward to making this a regular part of my routine.

Ask me tomorrow if I’m still looking forward to doing it on Tuesday ….

The 20 Habits of Eventual Millionaires – Altucher Confidential

I am trying to build good habits. In fact, I make a habit of going over my habits and trying to weed out the bad ones and replace them with good ones. I also make a habit of looking for lists of good habits that I can try to build into my own personal routine. Here’s a very good list of habits that I’ll be using in the future and building into my daily life.

Click the link below and read on!

Will these habits make millionaires Yes. Definitely. Will these habits make you a success? Yes. But more important: These habits will make the sort of

Source: The 20 Habits of Eventual Millionaires – Altucher Confidential

Some Changes With Round 4 of #ROW80 | A Round of Words in 80 Days

I had taken a break from ROW80, mostly because I couldn’t see anything. Now that I can see again (yay, cataract removal surgery!!!), I’m diving back into the ROW again. However, there are changes. Click on the link and read on:

So y’all, let’s have a little talk. I started ROW80 back in 2010 (!!!) because I wanted a writing challenge that was more flexible than National Novel Writing Month. I felt like it was …

Source: Some Changes With Round 4 of #ROW80 | A Round of Words in 80 Days

Be Kind To Yourself

The writing challenge that knows you have a life!
The writing challenge that knows you have a life!

I love A Round of Words in 80 Days. I love the concept, the writing challenge that knows you have a life, the idea of being free to rearrange your goals or even change them when life rears its unpleasant head into your plans. I love the community that ROW80 builds, and the friends I’ve made through it.

Lately, my health and my body are conspiring against me. I can hear them whispering to each other in the night!

“Hey, Body, how can we screw Tammy’s plans today?”

“I don’t know, Health, whatchoo got in mind?”

“How about you stop breathing on her, and I’ll give her an ulcer!”

“That sounds like fun! I always like a trip to the ER!”

“Hey, Body, you said you’d tell Health about me, remember? Her Cataracts?”

“Oh yeah! Health, meet Cataracts! I kinda went and invited them along for the fun!”

I don’t think I can reasonably expect to do more than get my reading done of my goals. I’ve quit making my bed, preferring to breathe, instead. Walking is right out. My doctor is working with my insurance to get me oxygen. That should help, but it is still ‘pending’, and will be a long process.

When my hemoglobin finally comes up above 9% (and I have oxygen at home), I should be able to attack my goals again. Until then, I’m just going to be kind to myself and remove the guilt of “I didn’t get my goals done!” I’ll see y’all around the Round, but I won’t be participating for a while.


ROW80 Midweek Update March 3

The writing challenge that knows you have a life!
The writing challenge that knows you have a life!

This week so far has still been devoted to resting. My hemoglobin has dropped again (not low enough to warrant a transfusion, though, thank heavens!), and I’ve been having problems breathing if I exert myself to any degree, such as going out to the car, or walking to the scooters at the store, you know. Normal life things that most people can do without thinking about it.

However, I have been reading in V.E. Schwab’s A GATHERING OF SHADOWS, and have so far been enjoying it quite a bit! I’m taking my time with this one. After all, I’m three weeks ahead for reading 50 books in a year, plus 2 weeks off for good behavior, so five weeks. I know I won’t take all of March to read this book! But I might take a week or ten days, I dunno.

I haven’t been making my bed recently, but then, I’m adjusting that goal to simply “be kind to myself”. This recovery from crippling anemia is still going to take some time yet. I spoke with my doctor today about getting home oxygen, and he had me walk up and down the hallway with an oxymeter on my finger. It was about 60 feet, both ways combined, and my blood oxygen dropped to below 90% before I was done, so he’s going to be working with my insurance to get my oxygen for occasional use. Hopefully, it’ll be a portable bottle thing, so I can go out and walk again. There aren’t many pretty places to walk, but fresh air and sunlight can still lift the mood, even if there aren’t lovely vistas to view along the way, right?

As for writing goals, I’m doing well to post on my blog, right now. Still no resources. Taking my laundry through the house between my room and the laundry room is exhausting; I need a nap after putting in a load!

In better news, though, we have FINALLY gotten rid of the blinding sun glare in my room! WOOHOO! Now I can see my computer screen! YAY!

So what’s up in YOUR life? How are your goals coming? Are you being kind to yourself? Let us know in the comments below!

ROW80 Weekend Update Ummm Plus One

The writing challenge that knows you have a life!
The writing challenge that knows you have a life!

I know, I know. I’ve lost count. I’ll start counting again when I get this new blog more figured out.

Over the past week, I’ve managed to reach many of my reduced-capacity goals, such as making my bed more often than not, getting dressed in actual clothes when it was NOT a dialysis day (more often than not), and reading. I’ve lost track, though of what I have been reading, except that I finished that Cue Balls series (Playing with Poison, etc.), and I have started reading V.E. Schwab’s A GATHERING OF SHADOWS, which I pre-ordered as soon as I heard it was available. I’ll post links to my review of that one when I’ve finished it.

In the meantime, as far as my goal of reading 50 books in 2016, I’ve read 11 so far, and we’re barely 8 weeks into the year. Doin’ great!

Now, how about you? How are you coming along on your own goals? Be sure to tell us in the comments, and then be sure to scroll down to the very bottom of the page and check out the ROW80 blog-hop!